As a Labor and Delivery nurse, I think I've received every sort of reception in the book. So when I walked in to a couple's room the other day and introduced myself, I was hardly fazed by the folded arms, icy stares and lack of response.
"OK, then! Nice to meet you all!" Quite frankly, I earn my living whether you talk to me or not. I usually would rather make it a pleasant day, but hey! Whatever floats your boat, right?! I'll admit, I said it a little sarcastically, though... I can't figure out how people think it's ok to be so rude in such a situation. Do they act this way on the street? At a party? With friends? I don't get it...
I chatter on, seemingly oblivious to the complete lack of response or interaction. Whether they answer me or not, I'm going to tell them all about the c/section they are about to experience. Like it or not. As I finish my shpeel, another young man and a middle-aged woman enter.
"Ok, if there aren't any questions, I will leave you all to visit. Please call me if you need anything." I leave the room.
The couple that just entered the room follow right behind me. "Could I speak with the medical personel responsible for Daniela?" the young man asks me. Oooooo! Sounds official! "I'm Deborah, I will be her nurse. What can I do for you?"
He very respectfully explains to me that he is the babydaddy and that he would like to be present in the c/section. Ok. Act cool. I've seen worse. Honestly, I have, but I always wonder what this pregnant girl has got that has her getting more action than me! I send him off to the Family Waiting Room and head back in to the room to clarify the situation with the patient. Could you not have told me about this?!
Now the only way I know how to deal with this sort of sticky situation is to be upfront. "I've been asked by the baby's father that he attend the delivery..." there is a loud moan from Insignificant Other in the corner as he drops his head dramatically into his hands... "Can you clarify your plans with me so that we can make arrangements to best suit your wishes?" I get a big blank stare. Ok, so maybe we're just the stupid people. "Is the baby's daddy going into the c/section with you?" "Uh, Yeah!" she responds, dripping in sarcasm, like I'm the stupid person. "Will he also be getting the baby band, giving him full access to the baby?" "Yeaaaaah" Again, like I'm a moron. You're welcome for attending to your wishes.
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